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I fell deeply in love and got married in 2009.
I lived with my girlfriend for a few months before I got married.
Then I got my conditional green card in around three and a half months and looked for jobs in her state.
After searching for two months in her state, I moved to another state to work.
Since then we have been living in separate states.
We have kept in touch every single day, and made visits whenever money has allowed us to.
I still have not been able to get a job that allows me to support us both and hence cannot find the confidence to tell her to quit her part time job and move in with me.
I am due to apply to remove conditions this year, and this keeps bothering me, even though all documents are jointly under our name, she has changed her last name, and met my family (I flew them here from overseas so we could all meet up).
We just spent vacation together a week ago, but now we are living in different states again.
Is there any hope for couples where the love is true, and the commitment is genuine?
Or do all marriages that lead to adjustment of status need to be "perfect"?

You are going to run into problems and will invite unwanted attention.
I dont know your case or have your A-file infront of me but just your statement here has lot of holes in it, first your family is affluent enough to fly to US but cannot help their son financially to re-unite with his spouse. Second you afford to have a vacation but cant afford to live together?
Here I am just a average Joe and pick these few things in your story and am not satisfied myself imagine a immigration officer who are much more trained and experienced as they interview multilple couples in just one day.
Goodluck !

I am slightly confused. She has a part-time job in her state and she cannot find another part-time job in your state? What kind of part-time job is it that is exclusively found in her current state? USCIS, not me, will be interested to learn this.

I still have not been able to get a job that allows me to support us both and hence cannot find the confidence to tell her to quit her part time job and move in with me.

You may have a little difficulty but youll probably still get approved if you prepare well. Take pictures of your vacations (with both of you in the picture and recognizable landmarks in the background), keep gathering the joint documents, keep filing taxes together, and bring her to the interview (if there is an interview) and you should be approved.

But you need to keep looking for a job in her state, and/or she should be looking for a job in your state, and keep proof of the correspondence with those companies, so you can show that youre trying to end the separation and havent permanently accepted the status quo of living apart.