Sad story...
Hello There,
Heres my sad story. I was an overstay on a B2 visa for 4 years, when I met the girl whom I married in 2010 april. Everything went fine, I finally got my greencard this January. We rented our on apartment, worked and everything seemed just fine.
Then I made the decision to go travel back to my native country, because I owned a condo there and I wanted to go ahead and sell it, so we can go ahead and invest it, start our life in the US. It took me 3 weeks to get all the paperwork and everything else in order (European bureaucracy…), so I was away for almost 4 weeks.
And here goes the sad part. As soon as I got home, I knew something wasnt right… And I was right. My wife stood up and sad, "Im 4 weeks pregnant". I didnt know If I wanted to start laugh or cry, but wait… We hadnt been together for 6 weeks, and before that too I used protection (she cant take pills for medical reasons). And yes, she admitted, that she had an affair with a mexican guy, and it had been going on for 2 months.
I still couldnt talk, because of the shock I was in…And when I thought it couldnt get any worse, it did. She shaid, she is not going to abort the baby, shes gonna raise him/her, and love him/her, no matter what. I totally broke down, and I told her, that I couldnt go on with our marriage like this…I just cant…I was sad, and furious at the same time and I told her I want a divorce, I cant do this…I cant raise somebody elses child, plus the cheating, I just cant handle it…just too much. I moved out last week and now Im staying with my parents in a different state and trying to find a job, so I dont live up all the money that I sold my place for in my country.
I defienetly want a divorce, and here comes the question.
Am I gonna be able too remove the conditions in 2012 with my own? We havent started the legal separation process yet.
I sold everything I had in my native country, my whole family is here (theyre all either USCs or LPRs).
What should I do? Im gonna make an appointment with a lawyer this week to ask for professional help, but in the meantime, just wanted to get your opinion here, because I dont want to start a whole new life in my country.
Thank you for your kind responses.
PS: Please dont even try to talk mi into couples therapy and stuff like that, because Im committed for the divorce, I just cant do this marriage like this, theres no trust plus a little mexican baby…Cant do it.
Make sure you dont acknowledge the kid as yours, and do what you can to prevent your name going on the birth certificate as the father. Otherwise, you may be held liable for child support, because normally a child born to a married woman is legally presumed to be the husbands child.
I will not suggest you go to couples therapy. If youre not happy, you leave. I wish you luck.
Hello There,
Heres my sad story. I was an overstay on a B2 visa for 4 years, when I met the girl whom I married in 2010 april. Everything went fine, I finally got my greencard this January. We rented our on apartment, worked and everything seemed just fine.
Then I made the decision to go travel back to my native country, because I owned a condo there and I wanted to go ahead and sell it, so we can go ahead and invest it, start our life in the US. It took me 3 weeks to get all the paperwork and everything else in order (European bureaucracy…), so I was away for almost 4 weeks.
And here goes the sad part. As soon as I got home, I knew something wasnt right… And I was right. My wife stood up and sad, "Im 4 weeks pregnant". I didnt know If I wanted to start laugh or cry, but wait… We hadnt been together for 6 weeks, and before that too I used protection (she cant take pills for medical reasons). And yes, she admitted, that she had an affair with a mexican guy, and it had been going on for 2 months.
I still couldnt talk, because of the shock I was in…And when I thought it couldnt get any worse, it did. She shaid, she is not going to abort the baby, shes gonna raise him/her, and love him/her, no matter what. I totally broke down, and I told her, that I couldnt go on with our marriage like this…I just cant…I was sad, and furious at the same time and I told her I want a divorce, I cant do this…I cant raise somebody elses child, plus the cheating, I just cant handle it…just too much. I moved out last week and now Im staying with my parents in a different state and trying to find a job, so I dont live up all the money that I sold my place for in my country.
I defienetly want a divorce, and here comes the question.
Am I gonna be able too remove the conditions in 2012 with my own? We havent started the legal separation process yet.
I sold everything I had in my native country, my whole family is here (theyre all either USCs or LPRs).
What should I do? Im gonna make an appointment with a lawyer this week to ask for professional help, but in the meantime, just wanted to get your opinion here, because I dont want to start a whole new life in my country.
Thank you for your kind responses.
PS: Please dont even try to talk mi into couples therapy and stuff like that, because Im committed for the divorce, I just cant do this marriage like this, theres no trust plus a little mexican baby…Cant do it.
I am sorry to hear that.
I know it is hard to stay together, but to be on the safe side, stay calm and qiute till you get your Contitional GC removed. If she wants to move out, then there is nothing much you can do. If is ok with her staying with you, keep qiute and stay with her. As the other persone told you, make sure your name is not on the birth certificate.
If thing dont go well, you should be able to prove to the officer that your marriage was in true intentions. And the sad part is you over stayed on B2. Its a very complicated situation. Till you get your Citizenship, you can be scrutinised with questions at your Gc interview and You citizenship interview. take some legal advise.
Good luck